In Antwerp, the city I come from, they have the tradition to celebrate Mother’s Day the 15th of August. So it’s perfect to talk about my first thoughts and impressions in being a mom.
It has now been two months since I gave birth and from the moment O was born my life changed completely. Not has it only been an emotional roller coaster, it has turned our entire life upside down. Recently a good friend of mine became a mother too and when I saw her baby, I became aware of how quick everything goes and that O is not so little anymore, even when there are only seven weeks apart. It was then, that I realized I have to start writing my thoughts down about my first weeks as a mother.
The moments I enjoy the most are our afternoon naps. It is just so nice to cuddle him and to both fall asleep afterwards. It is this little moment during the day we have totally to ourselves and it makes me forget everything. In these moments it’s only he and me and nothing else matter.
The thing I love the most is his smile. Since two weeks he can smile, sometimes followed by a little noise and it is just adorable! It’s unbelievable what a feeling it brings on me.
What bothers me the most is that after two months I still don’t fit in my not-pregnancy clothes and still have quite a tummy. Everyone tells me it’s normal and I don’t have to worry but still. I’m obsessed by asking friends and cousins with baby’s how long it took them. Apart from two they are all answering “it went quite quick”. But okay, instead of keeping my obsession a life, I’m keeping in my mind that it took me nine months to get the belly and now will take me another nine to get totally rid of it.
The thing that surprised me the most is how much I love him. For someone I have never met before, it was an incredible love I felt from the first moment I looked into his eyes. It’s an indescribable feeling this little human is given us, despite all the energy and time he costs me.
What I have learned is that it is important to take me-time. Actively. We have made up, my husband and I, that in the weekends he spends some time with O and I just enjoy my time. So when my two men are out for a walk for example, I do the things that I like. Polishing my nails, blogging… I just leave the dishes, the laundry and the mess for what it is. And believe me I had to learn taking this me-time because I found out that otherwise I stop functioning after a while. Let’s be honest, baby’s are demanding a lot. There was a time I had trouble falling a sleep but these days are over. We are working to find a rhythm in our daily routine so that I can avoid showering after 5pm. And I have to admit we are getting there. I’m breastfeeding now every three to four hours and during the night he is sleeping until 5am in one go.