Parenthood

Guest post: Not just skin deep… a mother´s struggle with depression.

While thinking about who could write a guest post for us I quickly had my friend Tina-Marie in my mind. She is since a baby shower about 4years ago one of my best friends and I wouldn´t wanna miss her in my life. Since C was born our meet ups unfortunately got less as there is a 1 hour drive in between. But as a good friendship needs to be: Every time we meet up it feels like we only have seen us last week. Tina-Marie is an original California girl and moved to Germany because of the love of her life. After leaving her old life back in the US she started all over again with her beauty salon skinTM. She chose to write about a topic which moms usually prefer to keep quiet about. But read yourself underneath:

When my-cutie-pie asked me to do a post for them, Doris asked if I would be willing to write about Pregnancy Skincare. Being that I am a skin expert for 20 years that seemed like the logical topic for me. But I decided I would write about something a little deeper.

Being that the 10th of October was “world mental health day”, I wanted to write about living with depression and being a mom.

Let me start off by saying it is hard! You can no longer just curl up in a ball and sleep the day away. You now have someone who needs you. And I can tell you it’s a lot easier to get out of bed when that beautiful face is smiling at you, then when they are screaming around like a maniac!

These last few months have been especially hard on me. Besides my normal duties of raising my daughter, running a household and managing my skincare business, I have had a lot of personal setbacks. The one year lose of my Papa, a dear friend battling with cancer, someone I cared for very much walking out of my life and an intestinal track infection.

All of these things would be enough to send a completely healthy person to their knees…how does someone battling with depression get through this?

I would say for me it is a combination of things. The first for me was to acknowledge that I have depression. A lot of people I have met see depression as a weakness and don’t want to admit that they are hurting. So many people are always surprised that I speak so openly about my problems. I am also fortunate to have a wonderful therapist and also realize I need medication. And I’m ok with that!

Surrounding myself with people who support me. Who understand when I set boundaries and sometimes just flat out say “no”!! Take care of yourself and your family first. Your true friends and loved ones will understand. And trust me….I learned along time ago you can’t make everyone happy…let that shit go!

Talk openly with your children about your struggles. It is definitely not my four year olds job to lift me up, but sometimes just by communicating with her that mommy is having a bad day we are both a little softer with one another.

Last but not least, take time for yourself. Even if it’s just 10 minutes! Take that time to gather your thoughts, cry, whatever you need to do. It’s ok to not always be a ray of sunshine… just remember to love yourself. And if that sometimes is hard to do, just look at that little face smiling up at you offering you all the love in the world!

 

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5 thoughts on “Guest post: Not just skin deep… a mother´s struggle with depression.

  1. Thank you for talking about this topic, it’s very important and very close to my heart. You are a strong person, even when the depression convinces you that you are weak. I don’t yet have children of my own but I can see a glimpse from your post of some of the challenges but also some of the wonderful moments. Keep on going!

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